Nicola (Nicki) Cartmill

Nicola (Nicki) Cartmill is a counsellor registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). She blends theoretical training with a warm, straightforward manner to help people who feel stuck or uncertain about their next steps. Nicki aims to make sessions feel calm and practical so people can talk through what matters to them.

Nicki works with common difficulties such as anxiety, low mood, panic and low self-esteem. She supports people dealing with relationship strain, communication problems and issues around intimacy. She also offers support for addiction, ADHD, bipolar mood challenges and career concerns.

Grief, bereavement and trauma are areas she has particular experience in. In these sessions she helps people name painful feelings and find ways to cope day to day. She also addresses themes like abandonment, shame, and feelings of emptiness that often come with loss or relational wounds.

Her approach draws on attachment-based and client-centred ways of working, together with elements of emotionally-focused and existential therapy. That means she listens closely, helps people find their own meaning, and focuses on the emotional patterns that turn up in relationships.

People who come to Nicki often want clear, practical ways to manage stress and stronger communication skills. Her sessions aim to be collaborative, gentle and focused on building coping strategies that fit each person’s life.

Approaches you can use in online sessions

Attachment-based work focuses on patterns in close relationships and helps people understand how early bonds shape current reactions and trust. It can be useful for worries about commitment, abandonment and communication problems.

Client-centred therapy puts the person’s experience at the heart of the session and uses listening, reflection and empathy to help people find their own solutions. This approach suits those who want a supportive space to make sense of feelings and choices.

Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) concentrates on emotions in relationships and helps people identify and change unhelpful interaction patterns. It is often used when communication or intimacy issues are present.

Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will talk with each person about their goals and preferences and agree together which methods to try. Sessions are collaborative and adapt as needs change.

Practical benefits of online therapy include fitting sessions into a busy schedule and avoiding travel time. Online work can make it easier to book appointments around work or family commitments and to continue therapy when relocating. Please confirm the specific session options offered before booking so you know how sessions are arranged.